I love my mother, so if she had decided she needed an abortion, I would retroactively be fine with that. I could not..
But someone else could want you. A person who wants to adopt you cannot love you the same way? Personally I’m not forcing a mother to have his baby and take care of him but everyone should have the chance to be loved, if not by the biological parent, by someone else.
I know I would do that if “I didn’t want my baby”, just to think of an “unwanted” person scares me. Because I don’t think there’s such thing.
(My apologies for not seeing this sooner.)
But someone else could want you.
Okay, here’s the thing: Why does my MOTHER not matter in that equation? Fuck someone else if they think their desire to have a baby means someone has to keep a pregnancy they, for whatever reason, do not wish to continue. Pregnancy is hard. Pregnancy involves a lot of factors, not just the baby resulting at the end. My mom is not obligated to provide babies for someone else.
A person who wants to adopt can adopt without it being me, especially since there are hundreds of thousands of kids waiting to be adopted, right now, and most of them will age out of the system feeling like nobody ever wanted them. Put your money where your mouth is.
Here’s the thing: A fetus is not a baby yet. A fetus is not a PERSON yet. There is no one waiting to be LOVED yet. You don’t get a person until you’ve got an autonomous being that can think and feel. Your conception of a person is based on a personal belief of your own regarding when the “I” begins to exist for a person, the soul, the part that is aware and knows it exists, whatever you want to call it, as is your idea that an abortion puts an end to that and makes that “I” miss out on its chance of life and love.
Now, the former part actually has a cut off date. There is no “I” for most people until about six months after birth, but after birth, no one is occupying someone’s uterus anymore, and birth entitles us to human rights.
That latter part, however? Is no more or less factually grounded than my belief that a chance is not lost so much as delayed, that my time would have come when either my mother was ready or when I found life elsewhere.
My mother at that point, when she was pregnant and had to decide whether it was the right time? Was a person. I was not, and I was not entitled to use her body without her permission if she decided the answer was “no,” even if my life depended on it.
I’m glad to have been born because my mom felt like she could have me just then. It was my time. If she hadn’t had me, then it just wouldn’t have been my time. Forcing someone to continue a pregnancy they don’t want to carry out is evil, and if I had been the result, it would make me feel like the worst person in the world.
Someone had to be made a prisoner in their own body in order for me to be here today?
I could not handle that, and looking at it like it would happen to the mother that raised me? That taught me about love, compassion, self-reliance, and integrity?
It would kill me.